On my way to work this morning, I heard something funny on the radio. The DJs were discussing a topic on "bengang", and listeners were asked to call in and tell their stories. So, one guy called in :
"Saya ni dah kawin lama... dah ada 7 orang anak. Tapi, orang rumah tak pernah nak sediakan sarapan. Hari-hari Nescafe. Nasi goreng ~ seminggu sekali pun susah. Jemput2 pisang tu, sebulan sekali agaknya baru ada... "
The DJ asked, "Isteri you kerja tak?"
He answered, "Tak. Itu saya bengang tu!"
Then the DJ said, "Yang selama2 ni, sampai dah ada 7 orang anak tak pernah complain. Apasal sekarang baru bising?" And they joked, "Unless you nak cari alasan untuk cari No. 2 lah.."
That conversation got me thinking, is that what my husband wants? Breakfast every morning? I know someone who got himself involved with another woman because he said, his wife tak pernah buatkan breakfast for him (what a pathetic excuse!).
I don't make breakfast for my husband. Not even coffee. He goes off to work early (at 7 am), when I'm still in bed. I have my breakfast at work, something which I look forward to every morning with my "Breakfast Club" members.
Previously, when MrN was still with his previous employer, we would have breakfast together occasionally. He would call me from Mak Jah's shop after sending N*dira to school, and I would meet him there for breakfast. Breakfast is only served at home during weekends.
I did ask if he wanted breakfast before he leaves for work, but he said no. So, tak payah lah.
I think I'm a bad wife. I don't do housework, I'm a lazy cook, I don't iron his shirts, I nag and I devote more time to the little boy than to him.
Would that give him an excuse to go astray?