Eversince I moved into this house 4 years ago, I've not changed any of the house's furniture/decor. Everything is exactly how it was when MrNordin's late wife was still around. The color scheme, the upholstery, the bed... yes, even the bed. I sleep on the same bed that MrNordin used to sleep with his late wife from 1997-2001. From 2001-2003, the children used to occupy the bed, and from 2004-now (after we got married), it becomes my bed.
A lot of people told me that the first thing to do after I got married was to buy a new bed. It's bad luck to sleep on an old bed, especially if one of the occupants has passed away. Well, we tried, but one child was quite disturbed by it at that time ("Why do they have to change the bed ?!!"), so we discontinued the effort. After that, there was no more talk about buying a new bed. I continued sleeping on the old bed, tho' I felt quite uncomfortable at first. Luckily, I didn't get bad dreams or the late wife come haunting me for sleeping on her side of the bed. So I guess, she doesn't mind.
But now, I feel that the bed has become a little too small for us. What with the little one who loves to snuggle between us at night, it has gotten a bit cramped. Kadang2 kesian pulak tengok kan MrNordin, selalu kena kick by the little boy. Suruh dia tidur dalam cot, dia tak nak. Even tho' I've put him in his cot after he's fallen asleep, he'd still wake up at 2 or 3 o'clock in the morning to crawl up next to Mummy. Kesian MrNordin... jarang2 dapat peluang peluk wife dia before tidur! Hee.. hee...
Actually, I've been thinking about doing a serious bedroom makeover. You know, with a baby, your bedroom is no longer the romantic bedroom it used to be. Dulu, the room is strictly for the two of us. Even the children were not allowed to enter when we were not in, because we didn't want them to snoop around (The drawers, especially ~ you'll never know what they're gonna find!)
Now, masuk2 saja, boleh pening jadinya. Dengan baby cot, pampers, baby wipes, documents/papers strewn on the lazy chair, the overcrowded sofabed, my handbags, his bags, toys, DVDs, books... eeee... rimas!!! Many a times I wish I could just change the whole bedroom into a romantic boudoir with a blink of an eye. Satin sheet, velvet curtains, soft pillows, deep purple throw cushions, scented candles.... ahhh.... wouldn't it be lovely.... And no baby! Like that, we could ML every night, unlike now ~ masuk bilik je, terus turn off!
I try to de-clutter the room once a month, but it's hard to maintain it if you're sharing a room with a toddler. Nak make him sleep in his own room, kesian pulak coz he's still small. Nak suruh dia share dengan abang dia pulak, I don't think the big brother will like the idea (you know, anak remaja meningkat dewasa, they want their privacy...) Itu yang pening sekarang ni!
Ideally, the bedroom should be our private love nest. I know a friend, she also has a toddler like Nizzar. She's a mother of two teenagers, and stepmum to 4 other children of her current husband (aged 12-20). They all live under the same roof. During the day, she'll be busy with the household chores and kids while the husband is away at work. But the moment the husband comes home, all her activities stop because her husband wants her all to himself. So, they'll be upstairs in their room, locked, chatting ke, coffee ke or whatever lah... but just the two of them. No interference allowed during their private time.
Huu.. I'd like to do that! Of course she has two maids in the house, so while she entertain her husband, the maids help with the dinner and kids. Kalau I buat cam tu, sure my husband would be a very happy man! But for me, balik kerja je, dah kena take over minding the busy toddler. Letih! Kadang2 nak say hi! to MrNordin when he comes home pun, tak larat. Bila budak kecik tu dah tidur, baru boleh have some private time with husband. But usually, by that time, both of us will be too exhausted that we'd rather hit the pillows. Or, if we're still not sleepy, we'd go out for coffee. But that one pun, jarang2 sekali sekarang ni...