Monday, January 12, 2009

Kacang Tanah

Why do I keep on losing my temper to the ones I love most? Why can’t I be more tolerant to avoid unnecessary squabbling in the domestic front?

Yesterday, I realized that I am a very impatient wife. Yesterday also I realized that I cannot be in the kitchen together with my husband.

The day started off very well. We woke up early and went off to the nasi lemak stall nearby to buy some paru and sambal sotong. I’ve asked Sri to cook nasi lemak and we were supposed to bring it to my in-laws’ house for breakfast along with other lauk pauk which we will prepare at home.

While waiting for the makcik to bungkus the lauk, we decided to sit down and have our Nescafe tarik. MrN ordered nasi lemak, I had this kuih appam manis, which was very nice. Talk, talk, laugh, laugh… then we went home happily with 2 bungkus sambal sotong and paru goreng.

Sampai rumah, I ordered Sri to cook the rice. 6 pot (usually, our family eats just 3 pot). But since we were eating at my in-laws and my BIL’s family were supposed to join in as well (2 adults + 5 children), I decided to increase the rice portion to 6. Alah… orang bukannya makan banyak sangat pun. Lagipun sure banyak makanan lain. Takkan my BIL tak bawak apa2, kan?

No, my husband said, tambah lagi 2 pot. Cook it in a different pot.

My maid just looked at me coz she knew her tuan memang suka masak berlebih2. I tried to voice out my disagreement, “Cukuplah 6 tu yang, buat apa banyak2 sangat. Nanti tak habis...”

His answer, “Biar lebih, jangan kurang.“ I wasn’t happy.

At the same time, he said he wanted to grill the lamb which he had bought the day before to bring to my MIL’s house. Hello… aren’t we supposed to just eat it at home? Kalau nak masak sampai 2 periuk nasi lemak and grilled lamb sekali to angkut to my MIL’s house, might as well ajak diaorang datang rumah, kan? Tak payahlah susah2 nak bawak berbekas2 barang to my MIL’s house!

So there he was making himself busy in the kitchen with the lamb while my maid was busy shuffling in and out of the kitchen with the rice pot. I hate it when he does that. Bila nak pegi rumah mak je, dia sibuk nak masak ni nak masak tu. Nanti my MIL akan kata, “Alah, semua ni Din yang masak…Yati tak de buat apa pun...” Anak dia jugaklah yang pandai masak, anak dia jugaklah yang rajin…

Memang betul pun, tapi tak payahlah nak “show off” kat mak dia yang dia pandai masak, kan?. “Haa. Mak, ini saya yang buat. Yang itu pun saya yang buat…” Orang tahu lah you terror masak, no need to fish for compliments lah!

Because I wasn’t contributing anything to the main dishes for yesterday’s breakfast, I decided to goreng the ayam, ikan bilis and kacang tanah. Hati tengah panas jugak ni, tapi sebab tak nak nanti my MIL kata I tak contribute apa2, I pun buatlah sibuk2 panaskan minyak. I still wasn’t talking to my husband who was, by then, busy arranging the ribs on the grill pan.

Bila minyak dah panas dalam kuali, I couldn’t decide which one to fry first. Kacang tanah or ayam. Minyak ada banyak dalam kuali ni. Kalau goreng ayam dulu, nanti tak best pulak baunya bila goreng kacang. Kalau nak masukkan kacang dulu, banyak sangat pulak minyaknya. Ahh… hentam je lah! I threw in the kacang tanah first, thinking that sure this one would take very fast to fry. So, in went the kacang tanah into the hot frying pan. Menggelegak lah minyak tu!

A few seconds later, I heard MrN warning me, “Kuat sangat api tu yang. Nanti hangus...” I buat tak dengar je! Dah lah he criticised me for the nasi lemak tadi and now he’s going to tell me how to goreng the kacang? No way! I’m going to do this MY WAY and I’m going to do it ON MY OWN! No one is gonna tell me how to fry the bloody kacang!

I buat derk je and continued frying the ground nuts. I was praying SO hard that the kacang would not turn black, but it did, of course. Memang sah hangus! I senyap je and terus angkat the burnt kacang from the kuali. My husband was watching. Then he asked the maid, “Ada lagi kacang tanah?” She said, “Tak de…” Then they went quiet.

Dengan perasaan yang marah bercampur geram (actually, I was trying to make it more dramatic!), I took the whole pot of burnt kacang goreng and threw it all inside this plastic bag which I hung on the window sill for rubbish and shouted, “I’LL GO AND BUY NEW ONE LAH!!”.
And then, the most despicable thing happened ~ PROOOOOMM!! The whole plastic bag pecah!!!! And the kacang goreng yang hangus tadi tu habis berterabur on the floor!!!! Oh my! Just when I thought I was making a point, the whole damn thing gave up on me! MrN shouted, “B! Apa ni….!!” That’s when I ran out of the kitchen!

At that point of time, I told myself, “Please leave the kitchen and do something else. You’re better off elsewhere than in the kitchen!” So I went upstairs (not before I cleaned up the mess), took my shower, made up the bed, and mandikan the little boy. While in the bathroom, I imagined my husband talking to the maid about my silly acts and I felt so awful!

After the shower, I held my head up high, took my car keys and went out to buy a new packet of kacang tanah. “Nah Sri, goreng kacang ni!”, I told the maid while avoiding contact with my husband who was busy turning the ribs in the oven. I’m sure he must be laughing at me. Tak apa…gelakkan lah. It was my fault anyhow, I deserved it.

Itu lah kisah nya...I noticed this a few times already. Every time we are in the kitchen together, sure akan ada perselisihan faham. Mainly because of our insistence of doing things our way. I think next time, I should take the cue from him and just leave him alone whenever he's in there. Better be safe than sorry.

Anyway, back at my in laws' house, they were all busy tucking into the nasi lemak. Habis semua 8 pot nasi ~ so my husband was right. The lamb was a hit too, everyone was scrambling for it. I didn't eat any because I takut pening (it was also a symbol of protest!).

My FIL did make some cynical remarks, saying that, "Yati tahu masakan orang Perak je, kan Yati?" Di sambung pula oleh my MIL who said, "Haa... lain kali kalau buat masakan Perak, bawaklah ke sini. Mak tak tahu apa masakan orang Perak!" (I think at the same time, she sindir my FIL who's second wife hailed from Perak too).

I pekakkan saja my telinga. My husband was smiling ~ either he found those remarks amusing or he felt sorry for me. I hope it was the latter! I forced a smile but deep down, I knew what I'm capable of doing. I don't give a hoot whether or not I'm a fantastic cook. And I'm not trying to impress anyone. Kata orang, "Ada ubi, ada ubi ada batas. Ada hari boleh balas." We'll see!

58 comments:

Madam Tai Tai said...

Hi girlfriend!!

Ha..ha..ha..gelinya hati baca your entry ni. I think many of your readers will agree that they have experienced the same thing too with their husbands in the kitchen. I put up my hand first..memang tak dinafikan yg Chepul and I BOTH in the kitchen cooking is a huge NO NO. Sure bergaduh one! If he volunteers to cook, I normally stay well away. And he doesn't come into the kitchen when I'm cooking unless he wants to curi makan lauk.

zaitgha said...

mdm tai tai dulu pulak...me too wont be in the kitchen with hubby...will leave him alone if he rasa2 nak masak he he....

one thing i am sure of, if i cook dgn perasaan marah, even the simplest telur dadar pun will turn bad...

memang i pun ketawa baca this posting of yours...

Anonymous said...

“Kuat sangat api tu yang. Nanti hangus...” Whatever ill feeling you had against him he still call you sayang. Kelas betul.

Amin.

Anonymous said...

Jangan sampai jd mcm kes dalam cerita P. Ramlee tu sudah le - tak de sambal belacan sampai nak pancung memancung... hahaha

ms hart said...

MrsN, my husband baca your posting sambil tergelak-gelak besar. Pas tu boleh relate lagi kat I sebijik-bijik incident kacang tanah you nih!!! Tu yang I quickly baca, and adoi...baru lepas dinner laaah...sakit perut ketawa!!!

Phewh...mujur lah Mr Sor pandai goreng telur aje!!

Ezza Aziz said...

Jangan gelak laa.kesian kawan kita ni...
Mrs N, sambut cabaran MIL you tu!
You beli buku resepi masakan Perak ni...buat jer..tak susah mana pun..tempoyak ada tak,buat gulai tempoyak ke,rendang tuk ke...
Payah sangat order jer senyap senyap(ni kes batu api ni).

Apa pun bersabar la sayang!!!!
dengar je lagu Broery tu....

wanshana said...

BJ,

Sorry lah...but, I pun geli hati baca posting ni :) Memang tengah datang angin kus-kus kot masa tu, ya? Hehehe!

I dulu pun, kalau Haizal masuk dapur ada ajer yang I comment coz' I wanted things to be done my way. Lama-lama tu Haizal pun dah jarang masuk dapur. Menyesal lah pulak I...Hehehe!

Anyway, cakap ngan your parents-in-law, "Makanan Peghak kelessss aper.." :)

MrsNordin said...

Mdm Tai Tai,

Ya ke? I didn't realise that you feel the same way too whenever Chepul comes into the kitchen. i thought it was just me.

Actually, dah banyak kali I noticed. Kalau dua2 orang masuk dapur, sure gaduh punya. Next time, I should know better.

Thanks!

MrsNordin said...

Zaitgha,

Betullah! Kalau masak dengan perasaan marah, sure tak menjadi! Goreng kacang pun boleh hangus, that shows how angry I was at that time. Dah lah hangus, bila buang, the plastic bag pulak gave way! It was a double whammy and a sure BIG sign for me to leave the kitchen!

Thanks for sharing!

MrsNordin said...

Hi Anon,

When he said that, I could feel he was being very cautious, takut I lagi marah. Tapi, itulah... tak nak dengar cakap suami, degil! When the plastic bag gave way, I knew God was trying to tell me something. Get the heck out of there!! Hee... hee... kelakar bila ingatkan balik!

MrsNordin said...

Anon,

Ha! Ha! Ha! I remember that movie ~ Pendekar Bujang Lapuk, kan?! Ada ke, sebab tak de sambal belacan sampai nak pancung memancung! Sungguh tak logik and very kelakar!

Thamks for reminding me !

MrsNordin said...

Ms Hart,

Aiyoo... malulah your husband baca cerita I ni! Ini lah yang dikatakan, bodoh sombong. Plus degil, itulah akibatnya!

Mr Sor, tak payahlah masuk ke dapur bila your "Putri Gunung Ledang" dah selinsing lengan baju nak memasak, ya? She lagi terror masak! Elok2 nak buat Ayam Bali, jadi Ayam Bala pulak nanti!

Hee... hee... :-)

MrsNordin said...

Ezza,

Unfortunately, my MIL doesn't eat durian/tempoyak. So, mana dia tahu betapa hebatnya masak gulai tempoyak I, kan? Hee.. hee... Rendang Tuk, maybe.

Nantilah... tapi buat masa ni, tak kuasa nak tunjuk terror. She always complain, anyway, about my cooking. Ada je yang betul. Malas lah!

MrsNordin said...

Shana,

I think, orang yang pandai masak ni always make the other "less pandai masak" person feel intimidated in the kitchen. That's why we always disagree.

Tapi yang I geramnya, his cooking tak pernah tak menjadi and selalu kena puji dengan budak2 or my MIL. I punya masakan, jarang2 dapat compliment walaupun setelah bertungkus lumus memasak di dapur. Lain kali, tak kuasa lah I!

Haizal, you'd better be off to the hospital than be in your wife's kitchen!

Anonymous said...

This is hilarious.

1) Moral of the story is if you can't stand the heat don't stay in the kitchen.
2) Make it a point that before both of you hit the sack for the night, resolve all differences-kiss and make up. No carryover into the next day please.
3) You will not benefit much from your sleep whilst under a state of stress.
4) You may want to consider to embark on a project. And this time make sure Nizzar tak kacau!

Thanks for the email address. Will get in touch.

From Mr N's family tree.

MrsNordin said...

Hi Anon,

You'd better leave a name now that you've declared you're from MrN's family tree. He was wondering as well who you are...

Yeah, it was just one of those things. Domestic squabble. But we didn't get carried away until night. I knew my husband meant well, it was just me being silly and stubborn that led to the burnt kacang! Oh well...

Kak Teh said...

Mrs N, after reading this post, as if on cue terdengar lagu P Ramlee - Sedangkan Lidah Lagi Tergigit!!

Well, men, no matter how old they are will be mama' little boy and will want to show mak what he does and will want to hear Mak's praises.

I do not have MIL and if she was still alive , I think I;d be categorised as the worst daughter in law as I do not layan my husband the way people expect wives to. I cant cook well , and now that he is away for a few days,over the phone , he pesan what to do, what to eat and what not to eat. Kalau ada mak mertua mesti I dah kena sembur!

Oh, to make you feel better, let me tell you that I washed keropok before frying them. and i live to hear this being repeated. The last time this story was being related was in front of 500 people in Kuala Terengganu - but I have progressed. Dah tak basuh keropok dah!

So, dont worry - you are not alone.

Superwomanwannabe said...

Hee hee funny post!!

J- I have SOOO been there with you. Jab= supercook. Me= supposedly cannot cook (takpalah, no pressure what)

What the heck do I bring to the marriage I asked him today ...(the ability to produce?) Thank goodness he replied "you're enough". (see , 15 years and they eventually know the right things to say hahahah)

- I think in the kitchen there should only be one boss. When he is there, you keluar ler next time..I always ask Jab - hello am not your scrub nurse ok...giving orders around - but he can't help it.

With in laws- you have 2 options. One : saya ni , makan makan biasa tak reti sangat masak,mak... biasa saya masak omputeh je, (hahahahah)

two: yelah Mak, nanti Mak ajarle masakan lain- Yati tak terror sangat, tapi you should see my OTHER talents for your son hint hint wink wink

Ok I am hogging your blogspace, sorry...!

(PS - this is a tongue in cheek reply ok don't marahhhhhh)

Aida said...

BJ,

If this happened to me, which it won't cos we hardly cook, BUT IF it did, and when my MIL bagi praises to her son, I would have added, that I am such a lucky girl to have married such a talented man... and sambung, that mak has done a very well job in raising a son ehhehehehe

I have ceased to try and impress my mil with my cooking. I sometimes do get some compliments with my masakan omputih ehhehe from the children, but I do not ask for more. Susah nak please everyone.

Anyway, my excuse will be, I have two small children that require my attention. :-)

AuntieYan @ Makcik Blogger said...

Salam Mrs.N,

You are not alone!I pun selalu ada this type of argument, tak tahu le nape ek??? Mula-mula tu bukan main baik lagi...pas tu mula le, sorang kata macam tu, sorang kata macam ni!Dua-dua takmo beralah, tapi, kami tak gaduh kat kitchen as my Cik Din memang tersangat hopeless dengan masak memasak ni...dia tahu goreng telur and masuk maggi je...

MrsNordin said...

Kak Teh,

Perhaps you're right. Men ~ no matter how old they are, still expect praises from their mothers. Oh well...

Yes, I've read your story about basuh keropok tu. Hee.. hee... I don't blame you. You're such a young bride then! Ada orang, suruh buat telur masin, dia pegi goreng telur tu! Lagi haru!!

I'm glad I'm not alone! Thanks for sharing!

MrsNordin said...

SW,

I know!! I think husbands yang terror masak ni, memang macam tu, kut? Mula2 ok, but after a while, he will get on my nerve. Always!

I think, yes, I should stay away from the kitchen the next time he's in.

You know what? He read this post last night. I was asleep. He came in and kissed me, "Sedap cerita kacang tanah you, B...I knew you'd write about that!" Hee.. hee...

"You're enough"? Wow... that's a MAJOR compliment, babe!

MrsNordin said...

Aida,

Cooking and fishing for compliments... I think I shall strike out those two things from my to-do list. I will not try to impress anymore, it's just so tiring. I'll let the expert to do what he does best. In the mean time, I'll just sit down and look pretty. How's that?

MrsNordin said...

Auntie Yan,

You all pun sama, ya? A-ha, memula tu, baik bebenor. Bergelak ketawa, senyum meleret, pegang2 tangan... Lepas tu, perang dingin! Entah apa2 entah!

My maid knows better ~ whenever both of us are in the kitchen, she'll take a step back coz we sure are gonna fight!

Tak pelah, at least Cik Din tahu goreng telur & masak maggi. Kalau zaman darurat nanti, lepas jugak lah makan dia! Hee.. hee...

Thanks for sharing!

kay_leeda said...

MrsN,

Heh..heh..heh..your story is so kelakar!!! But your are so very right, a big NO to both hubs and wife in the kitchen. Bukan gaduh jeh, but can possibly jadi perang besar, and very dangerous too, especially with the boiling oil and sharp kitchen tools just at one reach.

If it's any consolation to you, I don't even go into the kitchen when my husband makes his cup of coffee. Nanti ader je yang I buat tak betol under his watchful eyes. Once he's out, then only I'll go in. I call it turn taking. Maleh nak gado-gado wooo...ponek!!!

Thanks for sharing...I am still imagining your kacang tanah berderai-derai jatuh ke lantai tuh... :))

Kitchen Guardian said...

BJ,

Ha ha ha...baru semalam I encountered the same thing wt Haq and also last Sunday, I sebok dok bakar the cupcakes (in my recent post), Haq was sebok kemas upstairs sbb bak panggol orang cat rumah, he came down nak do the icing :) Yesterday petang I sebok nak goreng teloq for Yusof and Haq wanted ikan bilis gioreng wt air assam jawa....you know the kecoh...but I take it tt he's just lending a helping hand esp bini dia yg still dok penong pening ni..but I must admit when he cooks pasta memang sedap...

MIL...biarlah, my attitude is just to mind and take care of my OWN family, apa org lain nak kata about my family or buat, suka hati dialah, dont give hoods about them!

MrsNordin said...

Kay,

That bad, huh? Sampai dia buat coffee pun you tak nak masuk kitchen! Hee.. hee...

But it's true, you know... his coffee style-making is also different from mine. Kalau I - Nescafe and condensed milk je. Our friend, insists on using cream and brown sugar (must be BROWN sugar, ok?).

Masak pun he'd use BROWN sugar, NO white sugar. I like to use white sugar. Hence the differences. Tu yang kekadang naik hangin tu!

Aida said...

BJ,

Yes, u should just leave the cooking to the expert and just look pretty. Looking pretty pun tak senang tau.... ehhehe

In my case, I hardly take the tme to the latter either ehhehe kesian my hubby.... shoot... i may neglected my husband... good thing he's coming home THIS weekend.... (last weekend tak balik) .... he MAY get SOME pampering ehhehe

MrsNordin said...

Kitchen Guardian,

I know they meant well... nak menolong. But sometimes tu, let me do it my way lah, kan? I'll ask for your help if indeed I need one. If not, tak payahlah.

That's why I like to "operate" alone in the kitchen. But he ~ he'd engage the whole troop in the kitchen! From the maid, the girls and Nadim included. Sorang potong bawang, sorang potong sayur, sorang basuh periuk...

I cannot do it that way, but he can. So biarlah dia!

Anonymous said...

My hubby TAK RETI LANGSUNG dan TAK MAHU LANGSUNG UTK RETI MASAK.

The only time masuk dapur:
1) basuh tangan nak makan
2) letak pinggan makan dia kat sinki.

So apa nak di communicate dan apa nak digaduhkan kat kitchen tu?

Goreng telur pun tanak. Goreng kacang tanah pun tak koser. Grill lamb lagiiiii la..

Kalau I takde, solution is bawak anak2 to fastfood restaurant. If not, dia beli nasik lemak je kasik budak2 makan. To entertain, dia add la segala mcm potato chips, choc, biscuits segala tok nenek tu.

Apa sajalah asalkan dia tak payah nak kena masuk dapur and cook.

Apo nak di kato !!

~gf at office~

MrsNordin said...

Aida,

Yes, go and do it. Actually, sit down and looking pretty pun is quite a chore!

MrsNordin said...

Hi gf at office,

Husband pandai masak complain, husband tak pandai masak pun, complain. Camno tu?

Dah selama2nya you're the one who did all the domestic chores including cooking, bila pulak dia nak belajar? Sabar je lah... engkau pun sekarang dah terror bab bab memasak ni. Siap buat roast turkey lagi! Aku pun tak pernah buat! So well done! Sure husband sayang!

shell said...

hahahaha! it reminds me of my own temper! the difference is i tak pernah apologize - NO WAY! i tetap menang, hangus or not! Love your stories by the way.

MrsNordin said...

Hi Shell!

I didn't realise many people feel the same way I did. You too? Hee.. hee... this is what I called "The Dilemma of A Married Woman".

To apologize ~ it depends. If I knew it was indeed my fault, I'll say sorry first. Otherwise, I won't either!

bella said...

Hahhaha.....Mrs N,
This is sooo funny...protest tak makan...lol...
Oklah, i do get the "sakit telinga" pasal the remarks...itu biasalah kan...thats me, menepis remarks...hehehe...whatever it is lah kan...u try always try to make an effort, let's say you cook Perak dishes...remarks baru: "eh, tak penah rasa masakan western from you"...lol...they are never satisfied...lol, MrsN, sorry but I always have sarcastic thoughts when in comes to IL...lol...tak baik betul I nie...

Ummi365 said...

Hahaha.. tergelak i baca.. memanglah kan bila kita tengah hot lagi kita nak tunjuk marah.

Hello my friend..you are not alone.. me and hubs pun selalu tak sehaluan kat dapur.. i remember we used to take turn cooking when we first got married, i selalu tak suka cara dia kat dapur..ermm sekarang dia tak masuk dapur dah.. tak suka dengar i bebel kut..

IBU said...

MrsN,

Sorry..... tergelak baca ni! I have this funny mental picture of you tarik muka/buat derk & the bag pecah... hehehe....

I don't have squabbles in the kitchen because.... other than to eat (if we serve at kitchen table), my husband masuk dapur only to change the gas cylinder jer!! And I pun jarang masuk dapur except to pour hot water into maggee in d cup?

We have squabbles about something else somewhere else. But squabbles for sure. ehehehe ....

p/s I have long declared to MIL, SIL, BIL and their broods that I am no kitchen woman. senang cerita. hehehe...

tearose said...

wahh...ganas ni!

tireless mom said...

Dear MrsN

I bet MrN pun tergelak besar when reading the kacang tanah story. Next time gantung besar besar "Mommy's Kitchen Father Not Allowed"

I have same disagreement with hubby when he is in the kitchen. Baru buat kopi sikit at times berlagak macam Jamie Oliver or Naked Chef. At the end, I insist let it be me sorang yang buat kopi. Tak payah nak mess mess kan my kitchen.

Kmar said...

BJ,

So funny.. sorry le ´terketawa´. My hubby dgn I pun tak boleh masuk dapur lama-lama. Ada aje yang tak kena... he wants to do it his way and I want my way. The best thing, bila time dia masak, I will leave him alone. Like Shana said, at least depa masuk jugak dapur tu... he.he.he...

Next time bila nak makan nasi lemak dgn kacang... for sure I teringat kat you.. he.he... yang ´berasap-asap´ macam naga sakti!!

MrsNordin said...

Hi Bella,

I guess you're right, we can never do good in our IL's eyes. Ada je yang tak kena! Buat tak tau je dah lah...

MrsNordin said...

Ummi,

Sama lah kita..... :-)



Ibu,

It's funny when I think back about the incident. Tengah marah2 tu, tiba2 plastic bag pulak pecah! Alamak... malu betul! So tak cool!

Hey, I'm sure you masuk dapur to do more than just maggi in a cup. Your ketam masak lemak tu? Haa... that one, kalau you tengah buat benda tu, your husband had better stay out of the kitchen, man!

MrsNordin said...

Tearose,

Ganas... memang ganas!


Tireless Mum,

Buat kopi pun perasan Jamie Oliver? Ini sudah lebih! You said he doesn't cook? How come boleh jadi gaduh pulak? Hee... hee...

MrsNordin said...

Kmar,

You and husband pun gaduh di dapur? Hmmm... sama lah kita! It's best to just let one person run the kitchen. Kata orang, too many cooks spoil the broth!

Queen Of The House said...

I can imagine .... husbands and wives in the kitchen fighting for territorial rights. Hehehe. Susah jugak ada these new-age men who have no qualms whatsoever about showing off their prowess in the kitchen. Ramai yang nak jadi Kitchen God nowadays. My husband is one - his newly found joy is cooking and having the kids exclaim "Papa masak lagi sedap dari Mama punya!!", lepas tu minta the kids repeat what they said. Haih!!

Anyway, MrsNordin, next time you boleh show off by just microwaving the kacang tanah and ikan bilis. Just add a wee bit of oil to the kacang/bilis (in a bowl), stir to mix well and microwave for about 3 minutes. Checklah after about 2.5 mins whether dah garing ke tidah, stir-stir sikit and kalau belum garing after 3 mins, add another 30 seconds or 1 min .... pandai-pandai lah adjust. I prefer doing it this way than frying - less messy :D

Eta My said...

Lahai Bj...awatnya jadi gitu...

Hati I yg berdebar-debar as I scrolled down the cursor..ingatkan kot-kotla ade nanti yg kena simbah ngan minyak panas...hihi!!

I pun banyak kali terhanguskan kacang tanah....errrggg

And..really selalunya kita akan tantrum to the most beloved la..bab kata pepatah..merajuk pada yang kasih...

Bj dear..kita pun ade banyak kali geram ngan my hubby cuma..tak berkesempatan to luahkan..and u'd written it in a such away..yang kalu baca...macam tengok drama lak...real drama...geram ade...kelakar pun ade...tata!!

Anonymous said...

Tiap-tiap kali my FIL & MIL dtg, my hubby dictate apa nak masak. So I ikut ajalah. Malas nak gaduh. Sekali tu FIL datang sorang. Kebetulan my brother pun datang dengan family dia. Dah masak apa yg my hubby nak untuk my FIL, I pun masaklah apa yang I biasa jamu family I. Masa nak makan my FIL kata tak nak makan sebab pening, nak tidur. Okaylah.... Tak lama lepas tu adalah adengan 'tin-tin kosong' kat rumah my FIL. Adengan 'tin-tin kosong' ni ialah bila my FIL and MIL kumpul anak-anak dia untuk jerit kat I bila they all tak dapat apa they all nak atau I insist they all bayar apa yang they all hutang I bertahun-tahun tu. Masa tu my FIL siap kata kalau my family datang sikit punya layan lagi. Kalau family dia datang tak sebanyak tu lauk dan makanan yang dihidang. I tengok je hubby I. Dia tak cakap apa pun. Geramnya!!! At least katalah yang dia yang decide apa nak makan kalau family dia datang. So at least kes you tak ada org lain campur. Kes I semua benda tak betul yang suku-sakat my FIL and MIL buat they all akan buat 'sandiwara' cerita Merong Mahawangsa untuk salahkan I atau menantu-menantu lain. Dulu I marahlah. Sekarang I naik kesian tengok Allah laknat dia orang sekeluarga macam tu sekali. Iyalah, apa-apa pun nak jadi Allah kena izin kan? Kalau Allah izin kita kumpul dosa tempah neraka tu, maknanya Allah laknatlah. So now kalau 'tin-tin kosong berdendang, I diam aja. Sambil tu dalam hati doalah minta macam-macam benda yang baik dari Allah. InsyaAllah doa orang teraniaya Allah perkenankan. He, he, he... Geli hati pun ada tengok they all.

Tina

tireless mom said...

Dear BJ

Memang hubby tak cook. Disagreement and masuk kitchen bila buat kopi je. Patut gula banyak ni, kopi this much etc etc. Boley?!

the principal said...

I consider myself lucky. My MIL akan masak all the time whenever we visit her. She's a great cook & I sure compliment her masakan. We just tell her what we feel like eating & bila sampai je, be rest assured dah tersedia atas meja. This has been going on for the past 9 years. My mom does the same thing too...

jabishah said...

Hi Mrs.N,

Hehehehe.... I dah suspense je baca tadi. Was worried for you. Ingat kena minyak panas ke apa... But of course I cldn't help smiling. OK lah, tak nak tipu, I gelak kuat. Hahahaha!

You know, I plus my helper will leave the kitchen whenever HB is into cooking. I rather not look. Turun bila dah ready & dah kemas. Klu tak pening babe tgk the mess.

Mmg lah bab masak2 for in laws ni can be a headache & a heartache too. Layan je lah. ;-)

Madam Tai Tai said...

BJ,

How come I can't view your latest entry "Photos" tu, eh? Whenever I click at your blog, asyik asyik keluar Kacang Tanah aje. Why ah?

wanshana said...

Same here, Gina. I can't access BJ"s "Photos" entry. Have been trying since yesterday :(

MrsNordin said...

Queen,

That's a good tip on how to goreng kacang. It sure sounds easy pakai microwave!

I malas goreng kacang sebab I tak makan kacang. That's why buat pun macam separuh rela saja... :-)

MrsNordin said...

Eta,

As I told Queen, I malas goreng kacang sebab I tak suka makan kacang. Sebab tu banyak kali hangus. MrN kata, masa dia tengok I masukkan kacang dalam minyak yang banyak & panas tu, dia dah tau dah... sure hangus. Tapi dia tak berani cakap banyak sebab dia tau I tengah hot. Memang betul pun jangkaan dia. Hee.. hee...

Lain kali, tulih je apa yang terbuku dihati right after it happened, ok?

MrsNordin said...

Hi Tina,

Thanks for sharing your story.

I think, that's very unbecoming of your in laws to do such things to you. It's always other people's fault and never theirs. Memang ada orang macam ni.

But you did the right thing by remaining silent. Just watch them and their antics. Like you, I can't help feeling sorry for these kind of people too. I always believe, if we're right, there's nothing to worry about. So, lantaklah they all nak kata apa, we get on with our lives.

Take care!

MrsNordin said...

TM,

I know, the same thing happened. But if he complained like that, I'd ask him to make his own coffee. Senang cerita!


Principal,

You're lucky to have such a nice MIL. My MIL pun macam tu, she'll cook apa anak cucu dia suka makan. But she'll complain kalau menantu dia malas macam I!


Jabishah,

That's the best thing to do ~ leave the kitchen when the other half is in. But my maid had to stay to help him potong bawang segala. I tak kuasa!

MrsNordin said...

Mdm/Shana,

I took out the posting lah. Soon, i'll put it back in. Sorry to disappoint you. Hee.. hee...!

Madam Tai Tai said...

Haiya...potong steam only!